Love Online: Emotions on the InternetCambridge University Press, 19 gen 2004 Computers have changed not just the way we work but the way we love. Falling in and out of love, flirting, cheating, even having sex online have all become part of the modern way of living and loving. Yet we know very little about these new types of relationship. How is an online affair where the two people involved may never see or meet each other different from an affair in the real world? Is online sex still cheating on your partner? Why do people tell complete strangers their most intimate secrets? What are the rules of engagement? Will online affairs change the monogamous nature of romantic relationships? These are just some of the questions Professor Aaron Ben Ze'ev, distinguished writer and academic, addresses in this book, a full-length study of love online. Accessible, shocking, entertaining, enlightening, this book will change the way you look at cyberspace and love forever. |
Sommario
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Cyberlove and cybersex | 4 |
Letter telegraph and telephone | 7 |
Mobile texting | 14 |
The egalitarian space | 16 |
The lure of the Net | 18 |
The risky space | 20 |
Summary | 23 |
Is it worth it? | 120 |
Love and sex | 123 |
Happiness | 126 |
Types of online intimate activities | 129 |
Types of activities involved in cybersex | 131 |
The incomplete nature of online affairs | 133 |
Summary | 143 |
Flirting on and offline | 145 |
The paradoxical nature of online relationships | 26 |
Distance and immediacy | 27 |
Lean and rich communication | 30 |
Anonymity and selfdisclosure | 34 |
Sincerity and deception | 42 |
Continuity and discontinuity | 46 |
Physical and mental investment | 49 |
Distant relationships | 51 |
Summary | 55 |
Emotions on the Net | 58 |
A comparative personal concern | 60 |
Typical characteristics and components | 63 |
Emotional intensity | 66 |
Emotions and intelligence | 70 |
Netiquette | 73 |
Summary | 76 |
Online imagination | 78 |
The reality of online imagination | 80 |
Exciting information | 83 |
The reality of romantic and sexual imagination | 86 |
Dangers of online imagination | 88 |
Regret and online affairs | 91 |
Summary | 93 |
Online privacy and emotional closeness | 95 |
Initial distinctions | 96 |
Types of privacy | 97 |
Privacy emotional closeness and openness | 100 |
Online closeness | 102 |
Online openness | 106 |
Emotional pretense and sexual harassment | 108 |
The transparent society | 111 |
Shame in cyberspace | 114 |
Summary | 118 |
Online affairs as flirting | 149 |
The rules for online dating | 152 |
The formation of online affairs | 155 |
Summary | 159 |
Cyberlove | 160 |
Seeing with your heart | 166 |
Online attraction | 169 |
Love at first chat | 175 |
Availability and effort | 177 |
The exclusivity of cyberlove | 181 |
Online intimacy and commitment | 188 |
Online rejection | 192 |
Gender differences | 193 |
Summary | 197 |
Chatting is sometimes cheating | 199 |
Chatting about sex | 202 |
Casual sex adultery and infidelity | 205 |
The morality of online affairs | 208 |
Cybersex with software | 216 |
The risks and prospects of online affairs | 217 |
Summary | 221 |
The future of romantic relationships | 223 |
The marriage paradox | 227 |
Proclaimed monogamy with clandestine adultery | 230 |
Cohabitation and online affairs | 232 |
Whetting your appetite outside while eating at home | 236 |
Greater romantic flexibility | 242 |
Concluding remarks | 246 |
Notes | 249 |
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