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CONTROL OF THOUGHT,

willing to admit towards overcoming the obstacles of natural constitution. The object in such cases is well worth the labour; for temperaments of this nature are generally accompanied by so much warmth of heart and energy of character, that it is the more to be regretted when these fine qualities are marred by the absence of that controlling power which would double their value. As in art, the representation of the highest ideal of human nature is ever marked by repose, the calmness of conscious strength; so in every lesser degree we see in actual life that thoughtful composure of mind is essential to all true dignity of character, that it gives weight to opinion and influence, and ensures supremacy at those very moments when it is most necessary that the strong mind should govern the weak.

From the language commonly held, and the contented apathy exhibited, we might infer that the generality of persons do not believe in the possibility of exercising control over their own minds, They have so long surrendered the power to chance, that they have forgotten their own claim to it. If the mind is sad, it yields to its sadness; if hopeful, every fond dream finds admittance and encouragement; if anxious, the subject of anxiety is allowed to recur unchecked; if indolent, the course of hazy shapeless thought continues without one attempt to rescue the mind from the utter inanity into which it is sinking. In short, they have energy neither to cast out the intruding inmate, circumstances may have forced upon them; nor to rouse themselves to follow a definite train of thought, if no external object be present to excite their attention. This abandonment of self-control is the first step to feebleness of mind and character.*

Yet the very persons who act thus are perhaps sincere Christians; they maintain the dogmas and revere the precepts of Christianity; but they forget how opposed is the teaching of Christ to all thoughtlessness; how constantly it appeals to a high power of control over thought and feeling and desire, no less than over action. It is vain to suppose that if this power be not exerted habitually, the capability to exert it will remain unimpaired and ready at our call whenever any urgent occasion shall require it; that, for instance, if vain and frivolous thoughts have run unchecked through the brain whenever accident gave rise to them, we yet shall suddenly find strength to resist the inroad of evil thought, at a moment perhaps of strong excitement; or that having admitted the evil thought once, we shall have power to forbid its return.

*We are aware that this is in some degree a repetition of what has been said in speaking of Method, and that we shall have to recur to it again in the section on Attention; but the subject is so important, that it seemed to us to justify this repeated mention.

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By renouncing the control we can and ought to exercise habitually in this respect, we open the door for the suggestions of evil, which in the time of trial will too surely lead to a wavering purpose. The mind, therefore, which has lost that power, has thrown away its best armour against temptation.

It is a lamentable fact, that women, whose capability of selfdenial and self-devotion is proverbial, are often wanting in the commonest power of self-control, when their fears or their affections are excited. That this does not arise from natural incapacity is proved by the exhibition of the noble qualities above-mentioned, and also by the fact, that whenever the indulgence of the weakness is attended with a sense of shame, or involves the sacrifice of any other strong affection, their power of repressing or concealing it is almost unequalled. How many a girl, not otherwise remarkable for strength of character, has stifled a betrayed or unrequited affection at the expense of youth and health and happiness, smiling with the heroism of a martyr, while her heart was breaking within her!

"She never told her love,

But let concealment like a worm i' the bud,

Feed on her damask cheek,-she pined in thought,—
And with a green and yellow melancholy

She sat, like patience on a monument,
Smiling at grief."

But if the girl, capable of this heroic fortitude, had in happier circumstances married and become a mother, it is more than probable that she would have indulged the instinct of maternal affection in spoiling her children, at the expense of both reason and the sense of duty, although the pain of self-control in this case could bear no comparison to what must have been endured in the other. The reason of this difference is, that the motives to selfcontrol have not power enough in the latter case to force her attention to them, nor is the danger likely to arise from indulging her feelings, sufficiently apparent to make it an obvious duty to keep them under control. If she viewed the subject in its true light, she would find in the lasting welfare of her children a motive even stronger than the sense of shame, which in the other instance duced such unflinching fortitude, and she would prove with regard to their education, what has been so abundantly proved in other respects, that no sacrifice of self is too great, no effort of self-control too painful and continual, for maternal love.

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Habitual moderation is so early and constantly enforced upon women, that in our class, at least, they are generally secure from the temptations which are most perilous to men. Their

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danger lies in the indulgence of affections pure and good in themselves, but evil in their excess, or when prevailing over judgment. It is a common complaint, that women are led entirely by their feelings, and in the first chapter of this work we have pointed out the causes of this defect; in their education and mode of life which develop with a forcing power the feelings and imagination, whilst utterly neglecting the cultivation of the judgment. Where the former are wrong in themselves the moral perceptions are roused, and the sense of duty awakened to oppose them; but the untrained mind does not perceive the limits beyond which no feeling may be safely trusted, lest it should usurp the judgment-seat from reason and conscience.

The narrowness of woman's sphere of life, the nature of the questions on which she is mostly called upon to decide, which are all more or less connected with her affections, tend to foster this defect. Men who live and act amidst the clashing interests of the multitude, and are accustomed to exercise their judgment, and to give their decision on questions wholly unconnected with their private feelings, are practically trained to a calmer method of judging, and they know that to take feeling instead of reason for a guide, is to snatch the helm from the hand of the steady pilot, to trust it to the drunkard or the madman. It is true that in private life men in general yield more to impulse than women. If a question does not come before them as a matter of business, so as to call forth their professional habits of calm and impartial judgment, they have less power of controlling feeling or inclination, and far less command of temper. This is the natural result of their education, which imposes on them no moral restraint but that required by their position in the world as public or professional men. Hence they very rarely bring the principles they are forced to act upon there, into the unrestrained intercourse of home, where their position is most unfavourable to moral development, except in minds of a truly noble stamp. If, then, we desire to find in them an example of the good qualities they sometimes reproach us too justly for wanting, we must look away from home life, and follow them to that wider theatre on which their virtues are exhibited. If we are to hope for a day when the family circle will no longer seem too narrow for their display, when irresponsible power will not be held as a privilege of exemption from self-control, and as a right to be careless of the tastes and feelings of the weak and dependent, it must be when women have sufficiently disciplined their own minds, and raised their own standard, to be capable of training their sons to a higher and better tone of moral sentiment.

It is also to better mental training that we must look to correct

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the defect of judgment in women, which is not so much a feebleness of the judgment itself when appealed to, as a want of the habit of appealing to its decisions at all. At the same time, mental training alone will not suffice; there must be also the moral power of self-control, the habit of regulating the will according to certain determinate principles, or we may 66 see the right and yet pursue the wrong.' "This habit will give to women the strength of character in which they are deficient, and save them from the charge of fickleness and inconsistency, to which they have been too liable. We are far from intending to recommend the affectation of attributing every trifling act to some important principle, which is one of the most tedious forms of pomposity; we desire only that wherever a rule has been formed in accordance with some dictate of conscience or reason, there should be the habit of strict and unhesitating adherence to it. Method, of which in its highest form this habit is an essential part, will preserve the due proportion in the relative importance of rules thus formed. Consistency ensures respect and influence, the two props of woman's dignity, but without self-control consistency is impossible; impulses, feelings, and inclinations must be continually varying; principle alone is firm and unchanging, and keeps the course of life steady to its destined aim.

There is one branch of self-control which requires especial mention, from its great and constant influence over happiness. We mean the regulation of the temper and spirits. Good temper and even spirits are amongst the greatest blessings of life, and we believe both to be much more within our power than is usually supposed, and to be the characteristics of a well-regulated mind. No doubt they are often natural gifts, the fruits of a happy temperament; but where nature has been less bountiful, our own efforts can yet in a great measure supply the deficiency.

The varieties of ill-temper are almost as great as those of individual character. There is the violent, the irritable, the sullen, the peevish, the jealous, and the fretful temper; but in all of these, and in as many more as might be named, there is one common element, namely, a morbid sensitiveness to what affects ourselves, and a proportionate disregard to what affects others. In other words, selfishness, in a greater or less degree, is at the bottom of every form of ill-temper. No one, however, will deny that the selfishness can or ought to be corrected, and in every case, except where irritability is the result of acute physical suffering, and in some rare cases of peculiar nervous temperaments, the illtemper will disappear with the selfishness which was its main principle. Even where physical suffering is the cause of irritation, and the power of the will to control the latter is very

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great, and in many an obscure sick-room the fortitude which would honour a hero, is silently and unostentatiously exercised in subduing the restless impatience of pain.

Self-control, or the habit of keeping the mind in subjection to certain principles, is, of course, the direct antagonist of ill-temper, the offspring of impulse, and therefore its best corrective. Unfortunately, even when persons are brought to acknowledge a bad temper, they are prone to consider it as a natural infirmity, quite as much out of their power to remedy as a crooked spine or a squinting eye, and the poor victims of their violence or their fretfulness are told, they really cannot help it, nature made them irritable, and the inevitable evil must be borne ;-at what cost of self-control in those from whom they exact endurance, they do not pause to inquire, nor do they even seem willing to allow for others the plea they bring forward for themselves. Very frequently also their own conduct contradicts the assertion on which that plea is founded, and they are seen to control themselves perfectly whenever the motive is sufficiently strong. The most illtempered servant can generally command his language and manner before his master; and the mastèr, again, who perhaps makes the lives of his wife and children a prolonged martyrdom, becomes courteous and enduring in society, or patient and submissive with professional superiors. Behold some family circle-listening to the angry voices, the bitter words, mark the inflamed countenances and flashing eyes, which in a different class of society would make you fear that words would soon be followed by blows:-at the height of the storm a knock is heard at the door, and a visitor ascends the stairs-instantly the loud tones are hushed, the ruffled brows smoothed, and by the time the stranger enters the room nothing in look or voice reveals the contention that was raging a minute before. The power of control then exists, and the same effort which can subdue ill-temper at one moment might evidently subdue it at another, were the motive felt with equal force. We may fairly draw the conclusion, that in such minds it is not an irremediable natural infirmity which causes the evil, but their own weak sense of duty, and the feebleness of character which allows them to be the sport of every impulse. The opinion of the world, the fear of public exposure, have more force with them than the law of their own conscience.

There is a habit of fretfulness, of worrying about little things, which, though not to be actually called ill-temper, is nearly allied to it, and produces scarcely less pitiable effects, because it is indulged without scruple. Many people who would be shocked at an outbreak of passion, and regard almost as criminal any complaint under serious suffering or affliction, will yet fret at every

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